Stress comes in many forms: a heavy workload, a complicated project, a grudge, financial difficulties, a family crisis, a meeting that seems important, or the world that seems to be out of control.
Is there a way we can relax in situations that stress us?
Yes, absolutely. You just need to practice.
You might be feeling stressed right now because you have a lot on your plate, or are dealing with an interpersonal conflict, or you have an upcoming event to plan…
What is it that stresses you out? You can tell me all the details of the situation, or all the things the other person did wrong… But that’s only your story. Your narrative is what stresses you out, which is your interpretation of the situation or person.
Wouldn’t it be nice if you could let go of that view, and just be in the moment? The result may be a feeling of peace and openness. Give it a try right now
Two Simple Steps To Cope With Stressful Situations
So, how can you train yourself to stay calm in stressful situations?
Try following these steps next time it happens to you:
1. Relax your perspective.
Ask yourself: What story am I telling to myself?
Taking a step back is an effective way of separating yourself from your story.
2. Relax your body by opening up to the present moment.
Relax your jaw and chest muscles. Breath deeply. Experience the moment.
If you practice this technique, even a stressful meeting, a chaotic situation, or an annoying conversation will become easier.
Practice First in Low-Stress Situations
Start practicing this relaxation technique in easy situations: when you’re on your laptop or doing the dishes. Going for a walk or chatting with a friend are great opportunities for this.
Breathe deeply, relax tensions in your body, let go of the narrative, and embrace the present moment. This is a great way to handle stressful situations with a calm and focused mind.